Newslink for Shabbat Parashat Ki Teitze (September 13th - September 14th)
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8AM Kiddush is sponsored by David and Edith Gold, grandparents of Sarah Linder, in memory of Edith's father Dov Be'er Ben Reuven. Seudah Shlishit & Teen Seudah Shlishit is sponsored by Duke McCarthy. Newcomer Kiddush: Saturday, September 14th following davening at SOI. Get to know newcomers who have moved into the community over the past year! Sponsorships available for a warm welcome! Click here to sponsor. Birthdays in the Park:Shabbat, September 14th at 4:30 in Ivy Park celebrating July, August, and September Birthdays. Come join your friends & celebrate your birthdays together. Click Here to have your birthday announced or to sponsor.
Women’s Pirkei Avot Study Group: Saturday, September 14th at 4:30pm at the home of Ora Davies, 23 Liberty Ln.Come together for discussion led by Ora Davies on the second chapter of Pirkei Avot, sharing thoughts, insights, and inspiration. Texts will be provided.
Reflections on the Simchat Torah Project Launch: Join Rabbi Davies, Ken and Alise Panitch for a special session of reflections on the Simchat Torah Project Launch. Saturday, September 14th during Seudah Shlishit at SOI (7:00pm). Don’t miss this opportunity to hear their insights and experiences!
Join Us for a Bonfire with Sons of Israel: Come and connect with our community at our casual bonfire events! Each event will take place at 8:30pm. For Women: Motzai Shabbat, September 14th at the Provda home. Light refreshments will be served. EmailMadi Botwinick for more information.
A Vintage Event - Jewish Vineland Bus Tour - Open to All Adults! September 15 starting at 9am. Discover the legacy of Jewish settlers in Vineland with a captivating tour led by Stockton University & Marvin Raab. This unique experience includes visits to historic synagogues, Alliance Cemeteries, Alliance Homes, and Stockton Beaches. Registration for this event has closed.
Semichas Chaver Program: Wednesday, September 18th at 8:00pm. Contact Rabbi Davies to participate or for more information. Women's Weekly Parsha Discussion: Wednesday evening, September 18th from 8:30-8:45pm. Join us on Zoom for a brief peer led discussion on the weekly parsha. Click Hereto Join the Zoom.
Sephardi Selichot for Elul UPDATE: Selichot for our Edot HaMizrach community members throughout the month of Elul and up until Yom Kippur will take place each morning followed by a Shacharit Minyan AT CHABAD. The weekly schedule for Elul is as follows: Sundays @ 7AM, Mondays through Fridays @ 6AM. Shacharit will follow at Chabad at 7:00am. Please click here to contact Hoosh Sadiky with any questions. Pre-Rosh Hashana Women's Shiur: Saturday, September 28 at 4:30pm. A shiur given by Ora Davies - Connecting and Feeling Inspired When Our Souls Feel Depleted - at the home of Gail Belfer, 16 Isaac Lane.
Shabbat, September 14: Ki Teitzei (Elul 11) 8:00am 8AM Minyan 8:30am Sephardic Minyan 9:00am Main Sanctuary Minyan 9:48am Latest Shema 10:00am Youth Groups 10:30am Tot Shabbat 11:30pm Newcomer's Kiddush 4:30pm Birthdays in the Park 4:30pm Women's Pirkei Avot Study Session 5:10pm Gemara Shiur 6:30pm Mincha 6:30pm Teen Minyan 7:00pm Seudah Shlishit 7:45pm Maariv 7:50pm Havdalah
Sunday, September 15 (Elul 12) 7:00am Shacharit 7:00am Sephardi Selichot @ SOI 8:00am Shacharit 6:45pm Mincha/Maariv
I am very excited for the opportunity to share words of Torah with you. Each week, in this spot, I look to share an idea I've found that speaks to me and that I think will resonate with you as well. This week, I share with you an excerpt from an article by Rabbi Dr. Mordechai Schiffman entitled "The Ben Franklin Effect" which helps us to figure out how to connect with those who we don't see eye to eye with.
In his autobiography, Benjamin Franklin tells of a rival legislator with whom he was having trouble getting along. Franklin devised what may seem as a counterintuitive plan to win him over. Knowing that this rival had a rare book in his library, Franklin sent him a message requesting that the legislator lend him the book for a few days. Franklin returned the book with a thank you note a week later. Subsequently, the man who up to this point never spoke to Franklin, treated him with great civility and they kindled a friendship for the rest of their lives.
The lesson from this story became known in the psychological literature as the Ben Franklin Effect. First studied in the 1960’s by Jon Jecker and David Landry, the Ben Franklin effect demonstrates that a benefactor who does a favor for another person is likely to increase positive feelings towards the person he is benefiting, even if the benefactor originally did not like the other person. The hypothesized psychological concept underlying this phenomenon is cognitive dissonance. We tend to dislike having competing conceptions of ourselves in our minds so we generally try and synthesize perceived differences. On the one hand, it doesn’t make sense to help someone that I don’t like, yet on the other hand, I helped this person who I thought I didn’t like. Hence, subconsciously I resolve that it must be that I really do like the person.
If we pay close attention to the laws Moses repeats in Deuteronomy, we will notice discrepancies between the formulation in Deuteronomy and previous presentations. In this week's Torah portion the law regarding helping a fallen animal on the road states, “If you see your fellow’s donkey or ox fallen on the road, do not ignore it - you must help him raise it” (Deut 22:4). Yet in Parshat Mishpatim the law reads as follows: “When you see the donkey of your enemy lying under its burden and would refrain from raising it, you must nevertheless raise it with him” (Exodus 23:5). While there is more than one difference between the verses, the most glaring one that the commentators address is the switch from the animal belonging to one’s enemy (“sona’acha”) to belonging to one’s fellow (“achica”). Why the switch from enemy to friend?
[...] Rabbeinu Bechaye suggests a different answer to the switch from enemy to friend. He writes that the Torah is hinting to a strategy as to how to transform someone from an enemy to a friend. If there is someone that you don’t like, and you go out of your way to help him, you will come to like him. By doing him a favor, you will become his friend. In other words, the switch of the words in the verses is hinting to the Ben Franklin effect.
If we would like to decrease the amount of strife and hatred in our lives, we would do well to internalize these messages. [...I]f we do have strong negative feelings towards other people, consider doing them a favor. By acting kindly towards them, you can alter your own perceptions and enhance the relationship, transforming them from enemy to friend.
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Mikvah Ohel Leah's annual Elul fundraiser is underway. Through the generous contributions of the members of our community we are able to maintain a beautiful mikvah and strenghten the observance of Taharat Hamishpacha in our community. We are so grateful for your continued support. Thank you and tizku lmitzvot
Mazal Tov to Marsha and Marvin Raab on receiving the H.Richard Dollinger Community Service Award at the upcoming JFSNJ Annual Meeting.
Mazal tov to Chani and Aryeh Gurvich on the birth of a baby girl!
Thank you to Sylvia Levine, Flo Shulman, Vicki Miltz, Debbie Friedner for helping prepare last week's kiddush.
Thank you to Eric Klein, Jonathan Delman, Matti Rosenberg, and Aaron Yeres, for helping with last weeks Seudah Shlishit.
We regret to inform you of the passing of Malky Locker מלכה רות בת אברהם דוד daughter of Avi & Rivky, sister of Sarah (Olitsky), Yaakov Yosef, and Ziporah
Shiva will be at the Locker home: 9 Isaac Lane Shiva information as follows: Shiva will take place at the Locker home - 9 Isaac Lane Minyanim Mincha/Maariv: Thursday - 6:55 PM; Sunday-Tuesday - 6:45 PM Shacharis: Friday, Sunday-Wednesday - 7:30 AM
May the family be comforted amongst the mourners of Tzion and Yerushalayim.
Thank you to Team 2 (Bob Belfer, Adam Shulman, Jeff Liss, Steve Koloski), Shlomo Aronoff, Debbie Fineberg, Donna Moskowitz, JFed Security Officer Bill DiCola and Sam Tilonsky for providing security on Shabbos.
It’s Reflective Belt Time, Again! Time to dig out the reflective belts we traditionally wear walking home on Kol Nidre night. For those people that need a belt we will have a limited number of reflective belts available to give out after services.
In the interest of safety all year long, if you’re out walking at night please wear your reflective belt!
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